I’ve heard this so many times: I can’t. It’s impossible. If I only could…..I wish…..
We tend to dream of all the things we want to achieve, and then without any plausible reason give up on those dreams. Maybe they’re too big. Maybe we think we don’t deserve it. Or, maybe we think we don’t have the means to achieve all the wild and wonderful things others have. Let me tell you what I have learnt from other successful people: Your circumstances have nothing to do with it. It’s all a matter of planning, taking action and believing in yourself.
Think about it. What do successful people have that we don’t? Let’s look at a couple of local individuals who, according to most of us, would be considered being successful.
First…Herman Mashaba. Here’s a guy who was impoverished and raised by his siblings. With a loan from friends he started a cosmetic business and built an international empire. How about Lebo Gunguluza, who everybody else thought would not make it, because of the poor circumstances he grew up in, now a self-made millionaire. Then there is Kenny Troutt who was raised by only his father, grew up living in a housing project, broke as can be and started selling insurance to make his way through college. Founding Excel Communications he ended up a billionaire. And so we can keep on adding to the list of individuals, who were worse off than most of us are and still made a success of their lives.
As demonstrated by the individuals mentioned above, your past or current circumstances don’t determine the extent of your success. Unless you allow it of course, in which case you are the obstacle, not the circumstances. So, what else could it be that they have and we don’t, that gives them that advantage?
Time, maybe? Now, that argument won’t hold any water. How many hours a day do we have – 24, right? How many hours do you think successful people have? Come-on, take a wild guess. Jip, 24 is all they have. Time’s the same for everybody. No exception here.
What else could there be? A disability Maybe? Sure it could be a hindrance, but not a show-stopper. For proof of this we can look at Stephen Hawking, we all know about his disability and successes. Helen Keller, who was the first deaf and blind person to earn a college degree. What about Ralph Braun who started the Braun Cooperation, despite a disability called muscular dystrophy. And our own Natalie du Toit, who is considered to be the most successful disabled athlete of all time. Guess there goes your argument about disability being a stopple, as well.
Now, what is left? Let me help you out here. If you have decided on what success means to you (and be careful not to be guided by society here); have accepted, without a doubt, that there is nothing that can hold you back; have clarified your WHY (very important) of wanting to achieve this success, and made a stern commitment to yourself that you will do anything (legal and ethical, of course) and everything possible, no matter what, if and when required, to achieve that success, then the only thing left for you to do in order to succeed is to believe in yourself. You need to truly believe that you are capable of achieving your dream. That you have the ability to achieve the things you want. As per R Kelly’s song “If I can see it, I can be it”. If you can envision it, then it is possible. Yes, obstacles there will be and there is no doubt that your efforts will be frustrated at times, but if you keep on believing in yourself, really believing, then you will automatically keep on going….all the way onto that list containing the names of the most successful people.
I’ll be looking out for your name on that list.
“Remember, we see the world not as it is, but as we are. Most of us see through the eyes of our fears and our limiting beliefs and our false assumptions”
Robin S Sharma